Here is a list of things I just wrote and more added to each line:
1. Attraction is half the battle. What are the things that repel men? Does it outweigh the attraction?
(At my age anything is attractive. I hate overspending people. Inconsiderate folks and trolls who can't discuss like human beings. So far I can take everyone only to a certain point. After a long pause I am good to go again.
2.How can people see in the dark or under the covers?
This is from Theodan's recent blog. He claims people can look nice in the nude. No the liver spots and wrinkles on my body will start to bug me. People who have fat hanging over their belt is gross to look at.
3.Get a fat husband and worry less about fat.
I suppose fat couples are happier than Fat and skinny couples. I would hazard a guess that my father really didn't care that much to give up a stable family. Similarily my oldest brother has no problem with having a wife that is above normal in size (for a Chinese) and is glad for the income she brings home.
4.If you aren't married don't ever get involved with someone already married and still married period.
5. Mother title adds to the attraction/or more permanent bond. Using the excuse that you need to do more mothering (of something else) should be discussed. If a man does not respect the role of mothering it might be due to issues beyond you.
Role models is a big clue. Bad fathers could be terrible role models and some men have to get used to degrees of mothering that women do.
6. Of the 33% of men who cheat ditch the repeat and unrepentant cheaters. (Go to their best friend and ask, can this person change?)
7.Money is nice. When things are troublesome for both sides it is a match made in He---.
8.There is smart and there is spouses that have your back. I would take the loyal have your back spouse.
9. How men treat the help is a good indicator on how they will treat you later.
10. How a man treats his mom is practically a future reference on how he will treat you.
11. Do not be afraid to repeat some things. Some men have to be awoken out of their revelry and you must give "hard of hearing" men a chance. A man that too quickly says that you are nagging is looking for an excuse. Both sides have to calm down and discuss why a certain request is not done.
Comments (14)
from what I've witnessed number 4 is very important advice!
@Smokin_SultrySally - We fall into really unknown territory when you have sex with anyone unknown. I suppose you are really good at body language and other signs to decide if a person is a creep or a great person.
I perfer to color outside the lines and throw the rule book away! I've been happier since. =)
Seem like stable advice to me, especially seeing how people treat other people as an indication of how they will treat you.
@Lovegrove - Golddiggers are unstable for loyalty. You cannot easily screen out true golddiggers or potential gold diggers.
I suppose since I do a lot of changing, I may become unstable or a traitor. Some arrogant liars would never admit to that because it is useful for them to maintain a lie and never give a sucker a chance to recognize a false friend.
Could I maintain good changes instead of selfish motives? Some people cannot change in order to save themselves. Do I realistically change or adapt to remain with the same environment or want to remain with a newer environment.
I sense were you are at because I have always been relatively demanding of friends and lovers, because I have always tried to give my all to them. Lets keep to friends as I have always had experiences of betrayal but my nature is such that I dismiss indications and once my trust is given, it takes along time to see abuse of it. Any indication of disloyalty or abuse of my friendship and it is difficult for that person to regain their "pedestal."
On retrospect, I see now that certain very close long-term friends were only using me and my loyalty. The two I am thinking of were in their different ways very selfish, it dawned on me a long while back but I pushed that aside. When it came to the crunch, when I needed help instead of my helping them out on a regular basis, it was not forthcoming. I could have been in desperate straits and yet no enquiry was forthcoming as to my situation and condition. I put up with this three times, that's my "rule" and then just quietly cut them off. I am very loyal to friends. Great for the friends but there is a downside. For it not to be reciprocated when needed is betrayal. As I indicated, "three strikes and you're out" I'm waiting for the fourth request now just so I can say go away in short jerky movements.
my husband treats the help nice and his mom ,too. I think you could be right.
I like number 4 and 11. Well done:)
these are all true... especially number 9... although there are times when a man is flirty with the help, but when it comes to the wife... well, let's leave it there :D
Good Morning, I like your practical analysis of people. I did not know 1/3 of married couples commit adultery. I don't know if that is high or average for most times.
I have heard that how a son treats his mom is an indicator on how he will treat his wife. I never heard that application for bosses and employees.
frank
i like no.9 and 10. not what most people would think about but i think it's quite true.
. Do not be afraid to repeat some things
Wonderful point. Some realities need to be repeated over and over and a thousand times over again. Lotta dullards, ya know.
I am surprised I had missed this one.